Welcome to a Special Edition of Car Talk! Today is my daughter Dana’s birthday. I am not going to say which one, because it is impolite to reveal a lady’s age. Nor will I reveal the birth year because those of you less mathematically challenged than myself could figure it out. Suffice it to say it was sometime in the early Eighties.
I remember that day and the days and weeks leading up to it like it were yesterday. Initially, it did not appear as if I were going to be much, if any, help in the delivery room. Dana was born at Piedmont Hospital, and her late mother Marie and I went through the Lamaze classes as was recommended by the obstetrician. We learned the pattern breathing, the prenatal exercises and massages, etc. Then one evening we were told to report the following week to room such and such for the child birthing movie. We arrived late due to our work schedules, and the only seats available were two at the very back. The room was one of those auditorium type science lecture classrooms with a faucet and sink, chalkboard and movie screen at the front. So, sitting on the back row, we were at the top against the back wall. This turned out to be a blessing in disguise.
The movie started simply enough, but then got graphic in a hurry. Very graphic. I’m talking absolutely nothing left to the imagination graphic. Now, I do not handle blood or needles very well at all, and soon began to feel very lightheaded. I told Marie I didn’t feel very well and she told me to close my eyes and lean my head back on the wall. I did so, but then she started giving me a play by play of what was going on in the movie. I said, “Marie, shut up, please. I told you I don’t feel good.” The next thing I knew I was coming to, leaned up against a pregnant lady with light brown hair and glasses, to my left. Funny, I still remember exactly what she looked like. She was pushing me back up and Marie was pulling me. I had fainted dead away. Marie looked at me and said, “Oh, I can see you’re going to be a lot of help in the delivery room.” I leaned back in my chair with my head against the wall and eyes closed for the rest of the movie. It had a happy ending, a new little boy named Scotty was born. Funny, I still remember his name…
On Friday, March 11, a booming pregnant Marie called me at work around noon. “It’s time,” she said, and I left work amid cheers of congratulations and good luck from my co-workers. We went to the doctor’s office at Piedmont, and the OB/GYN told us, “You’re only dilated maybe one centimeter. Go somewhere and walk for a couple of hours and that should help accelerate the process. We went to Lenox Square and walked up and down the mall for two hours. Eventually, we both agreed we were tired and went home. When we got to the house, I grabbed the softball and the gloves and said, “Come on, we’re going out in the backyard and play catch.” We played catch for about an hour before Marie had to go in and sit down. We ate dinner, watched TV and about 11:00 pm went to bed.
I was awakened around 12:30 am by her poking me in the shoulder. “It’s time,” she said, “it’s really time.” We grabbed our pre-packed suitcase, jumped into my ’73 Ford Ranger pickup and took off for Piedmont. We were flying up I-75, rhythmically breathing the whole way. We checked into the hospital. The nurse assigned to Marie was named Cookie. She looked like a nose tackle, but was very compassionate, soothing and comforting. “Don’t you worry, Sweetie, we’re gonna bring that new little baby into the world tonight,” she told Marie. She stayed with us the whole night. She held Marie tight as they were administering the epidural. And yes, she was in the delivery room when Dana was born. When Dana was a month old, after her first checkup with the pediatrician, Marie went to the hospital and found Cookie. She hugged her, thanked her and gave her flowers from her garden. Cookie held Dana. Later we talked about what a wonderful job that must be, bringing new little babies into the world.
When the time came and we were taken into the delivery room, the doctor put a stool for me at his end. Marie said, “Oh, no, he has to sit up here with me behind the curtain. He faints.” During the delivery, between breathing and pushing, she kept looking up at me and asking “Are you okay? Are you okay?” At one point, the doctor stopped and said, “Wait a minute. There’s something wrong with this picture. HE’S supposed to be asking YOU if YOU are okay!” We all had a laugh, and about fifteen minutes later, after one final push, the doctor exclaimed, “There she is!” At 5:50 am on March 12th, Dana Marie Etheridge brightened up the world. I jumped up and ran around to look at our new daughter. Marie warned me to be careful, I might faint, but at that point it didn’t matter. I was oblivious to everything but my beautiful little girl. They laid her on Marie’s chest so she could hold her, then the doctor asked if I wanted to cut the cord. I thought about it for a second and said, “No, you’re the doctor. I’d rather you cut it.” Marie asked him to cut it so Dana would have and innie as opposed to an outer. The doctor told her all he could do was cut it, and then whether it was an innie or an outie was out of his control.
The picture above was taken by Cookie right before Dana was taken to the nursery. It is the first picture of us together. Keep in mind we were running on no sleep, so after Marie was taken back to her room, I went home to get some rest. Mother and Baby rested at the hospital on Sunday, and on Monday, a warm and sunny early spring morning, we brought Dana home. Not without incident, however. When I got to the hospital, Marie asked me, “Where’s the car seat?” When I left the house to drive to the hospital, I was so excited I jumped in the car and completely forgot it. Those were the days when you were not required to have one to take a new baby home, so we rode home with Marie holding Dana. She kept warning other cars to get away from us and to stay off of our bumper. Dad drove the speed limit the whole way, feeling like the most forgetful, idiotic husband and father in the whole world.
Years later, my granddaughter Brooklyn was born. When Jackie and I saw Brookie for the first time in the hospital cradle, I lost it. She was Dana all over again. It took several minutes before I could compose myself. Dana had had a C-Section, so she had not seen her daughter yet. I was blessed and honored to be able to take my granddaughter into the recovery room and hand my daughter her daughter for the very first time. Full circle, and it was a very emotional moment, to say the least.
Happy Birthday, Puddin’! We’ve had our times, but I am thankful and proud of the beautiful young woman and mother you have become. Your Poppy always has and always will love you. Here’s to many, many more… Still Cruisin’! –P.